For some time now, I’ve been thinking about removing “Hollywood party girl extraordinaire” from my blog tagline. I’d hardly consider myself a party girl anymore; most nights you will find me curled up with a book at home. However, I am fortunate enough to be invited to some of the most fabulous events around town, and I wanted to be able to share that side of me, even if the party girl only comes out once in a while these days.
Well, the party girl sure came out last month when I went to Miami for a long weekend, where I basically drank for three days straight–something I never do in L.A., but hey, I was on vacation! I had such an incredible time and made so many wonderful new friends, but I came back feeling completely run down, and not to mention, four pounds heavier! In spirituality we talk about letting go of behaviors that no longer serve us. After my wild weekend, I came to the realization that this party girl behavior was no longer serving me.
From a purely physical standpoint, as a fitness professional, I owe it to myself and my clients to practice what I preach and be in the best shape possible. When I’m sober, I’m extremely health conscious, eating a gluten-free diet, watching every single bite of food that goes into my mouth, even counting the number of almonds I eat (I never have more than eight in one sitting). However, all my discipline and hard work goes out the window when after a few drinks, I turn into a binge eater. My friends may think it’s cute to see me gorge on bread and butter sandwiches at 2a.m. (yes, I know it’s disgusting), however, I find it embarrassing and my body will never be where I want it to be if I’m drinking on a regular basis.
Now for the metaphysical standpoint: we are all beings of energy. When we are vibrating on a high level, we are in tune with the frequency of the universe. Some behaviors that raise your energy vibration are yoga, meditating, lovemaking, thinking positive thoughts, complimenting people, clean eating, chanting and reading inspirational books. When we are operating at a high frequency, our intuition is sharper, we feel more inspired, and we are greater able to manifest miracles. On the flip side, some behaviors that lower our energy frequency are thinking negative thoughts, complaining, judging, eating junk food and, yes, drinking.
I’ll admit I am a bit superstitious, but I’ve noticed when I’m in party mode, it’s almost as if I’m putting a more chaotic (low-level) energy into the world. After my party nights, it’s not uncommon for me to find a ticket on my car, or in Miami, my flight was delayed for nearly four hours causing me to miss a promo modeling gig. The delayed flight was beyond my control, but when things start going wrong, I always take it as a sign from the universe to slow down and reevaluate my behaviors, which usually means taking a break from alcohol. I’ve noticed when I do take these breaks, everything is better. Of course, I look and feel more radiant and alive, but I also feel more intuitive, I am inspired to write more, and miracles seem to naturally unfold around me.
For instance, in the last few weeks after I decided to take a little break from drinking, I received a really exciting job offer after posting my resume on LinkedIn; then a client of mine gave me a very generous tip on the Pilates package he bought; and a friend of mine offered to help me paint my apartment pink. I believe that our experiences in life are a direct reflection of the frequency we are vibing in.
Since I do still enjoy going out and many of my friends are in the Hollywood party scene, I sought some advice from my energy healer girlfriend who loves to party, but doesn’t drink when she goes out. She told me that I need to examine my intentions of why I am going out and why I am drinking. Am I going out to see friends, to network, to eat dinner? I can visit with friends without having to stay at the club until the lights go up. And why am I drinking? I realized that I’m not drinking because I love alcohol so much–usually when I drink, I am drinking because other people want me to. Maybe I’m worried my date will think I’m boring if I don’t drink with him. Or maybe I want to be on the same level and connect with my friends. It would be a rare occasion that I actually wanted to go out with the intention of really letting my hair down since my authentic self isn’t much of a drinker.
I don’t mean to sound condescending or judgmental, because I’m not. I think drinking and partying are totally fun. It’s just that I’ve been sneaking into Hollywood nightclubs since I was seventeen. I’ve had A LOT of fun in my life, probably more fun than most people will ever know. Since I’m trying to accomplish so much right now, I actually feel a bit guilty when I go out and party these days. Every night I spend drunk is a day I will spend hungover, not operating at my full potential.
I’ve already met a great deal of resistance when telling friends I’m taking a little break. Several people said, “but you’re soooo fun when you’re drunk.” I’m flattered everyone wants me at their parties and thinks I’m so fun when I’m drunk, but I’m a lot of fun when I’m sober too–and when I stick to coconut water, I don’t bite. There’s no need to worry, with or without alcohol, I will never lose my wild spirit and sense of playfulness.
I hope my party friends will join me in more high-vibe activities like hiking, yoga, green juice dates, spiritual lectures etc., so we can raise our vibration and manifest miracles together. Of course, you’ll still see me out on the town from time to time, but I’m going to reserve my drinking nights to holidays and special occasions. I don’t want to say I’ll never drink again–I know when a certain high-vibe friend comes to town with pink champagne, I will definitely won’t be able to resist.
Who’s to say how long my health kick will last, summer is really fun in Los Angeles, but for right now, I don’t want to kill my vibe!